[转帖]每個人都可能扣錯第一顆釦子

<p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">被狗吠的人，不一定是贼；</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">留长胡子，也不一定是艺术家。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">但有了「</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">偏」见，就会把「</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">人」看「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">扁」了</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">?</font></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p></span></p><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">每星期五晚上，小吴都开车送太太到火车站搭车，去探生病的妈妈。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">十分钟后，小吴妹妹所乘的火车就到站。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">他接她回家帮忙他们料理家务。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">每逢星期日整个程序正好相反。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">小吴妹妹的火车开出十分钟后，他太太才到。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">有一晚，他的妹妹刚走，小吴正等着接太太的车，一个站务员慢慢走过来。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">他笑容诡异地说</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">:</font></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">「先生，你真有办法。难道你不怕有一天会被她们逮到吗</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman"> ?</font></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">」</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p></span></p><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p><p></p><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">和别人相处时，我们都惯于戴上一副「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">先入为主」的眼镜，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">将别人放进一个「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">框框」里，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">再用这个框框解释此人的角色与行为他是好人、他是坏人，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">他好像有外遇、她很爱占小便宜</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">........</font></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">我们甚至把想法投射到对方身上，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">以致经常偏离事实真相。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p></span></p><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">也许你也听过这则故事</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">..</font></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">有两个女人，坐在同一张桌子喝饮料。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">其中一个，把雨伞靠在桌边，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">另一个在喝完饮料时，迷迷糊糊的，顺手拿起雨伞就走。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">雨伞的主人大声叫说</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">:</font></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">「喂</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">! </font></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">妳拿了我的雨伞。」</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">前面那个女人一脸尴尬，红着脸向对方道歉，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">说是忘了自已没带伞，一时误拿。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">这件事，让她想起需要买把雨伞，顺便也买一把给孩子，于是她便去买了两把。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">回家的路上，她正巧又跟那位之前被她误拿雨伞的女人坐在同一辆公车上。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">那女人注视着那两把雨伞，说</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">:</font></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">「我看妳今天的成绩还不错嘛</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman"> !</font></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">」</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p></span></p><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p><p></p><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">人们在判断别人时常有一种倾向，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">就是把人概分为「</span><font face="Times New Roman"><br/>  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">好的」或「</span><font face="Times New Roman"><br/>  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">不好的」两部分。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">当一个人留给人的印象是「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">好的」时，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">人们就会把他的言行举止用「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">好的」角度去解释，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">反之，</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">如果一个人被归于「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">不好的」的印象时，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">那么，一切「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">不好的」看法都会加在他的身上。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">这种现象称之为「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">月晕效应」。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">意即当人们看到月亮的同时，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">周边的光环也会被注意到。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">当一个人的「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">印象确立」之后，</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">人们就会自动「</span><font face="Times New Roman">  </font><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">印象概推」</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman"> ( Halo Effect) </font></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">将第一印象的认知与对方的言行联想</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">在一起。</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="left" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;"><span lang="EN-US"><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p></span></p><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p><p></p><p><font face="Times New Roman"> </font></p><p></p>

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<p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「成见」能有多荒谬</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">?</font></span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">有一名年轻犹太人和老犹太人坐在同一列火车上。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">年轻犹太人问老犹太人说</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">:</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">先生，请问现在几点了</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> ?</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">老犹太人却默不作声。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">对不起</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">! </font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">先生，请问现在几点了</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> ?</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">老犹太人还是不答</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">先生很抱歉打扰您了</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">! </font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">但是我真的想要知道现在是几点钟。你为什么不回答我呢</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">?</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">老犹太人答道</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">:</font></span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">孩子，下一站就是最后一站了。而我一点都不认识你这个陌生人。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">如果我现在回答你，依照犹太人的传统，我就必须邀请你到我家坐。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">你长得很英俊，而我有一个很漂亮的女儿。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">你们俩一定会爱上对方，然后你就会把我的女儿娶走。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">你告诉我，我为什么要一个连手表都买不起的女婿呢</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">? </font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span lang=\"EN-US\"><p><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> </font></p></span></p><span lang=\"EN-US\"><p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">几乎每一分钟、每一件事，我们都依凭着过去所得的知识、经验在作判断。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">比方，我们常听说</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">(</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">或认为</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">):</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">生意人都很狡猾</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">」、</span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">女人都是烂驾驶」、</span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">男人都很不卫生」、</span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">犹太人都很吝啬」、</span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">法国人都很浪漫」</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> .......</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">等等。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">此后我们心中就会建立一套刻板的印象，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">并用这个「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">成见」去解释或评断周遭的人事物。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span lang=\"EN-US\"><p><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> </font></p></span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">一对男女若看到一个男人拿把花走在街上，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">女的可能会想</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">:</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">哦</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> !</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">他真体贴、好浪漫。</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">男的也许会认为，「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">天啊</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> !</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">我看这家伙完了</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span lang=\"EN-US\"><p><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> </font></p></span></p><span lang=\"EN-US\"><p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">有一则故事，大意是这样的</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">:</font></span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">有一位先生初到美国不久，某个早上到公园散步，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">看到一些白人坐在草坪上聊天、晒太阳，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">他心想</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">: </font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「美国人生活真是悠闲，有钱又懂得享受生活。」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">走了不久，又看到有几个黑人也悠闲地坐在草坪的另一边，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">这位先生不禁想到，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「唉</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">!</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">黑人失业的问题还真是严重，这些人大概都在领社会救济金过生活。」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span lang=\"EN-US\"><p><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> </font></p></span></p></p></span></p></span>

<p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">艾斯曾有这么一段妙喻，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">当你暗夜走在街上，看见某扇窗亮了一盏灯。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">也许有人会说</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">:</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「这一定是母亲为还没有回家的子女在祷告」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">也有人会说</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">:</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「老天，一定有人在偷情。」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">哈兹立特有句话</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">:</font></span><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">偏见是无知的孩子。」</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">说得一点都不错，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">人」「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">扁」为</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">偏，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">人一旦有了偏见，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">就会把「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">人」看「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">扁」、看「</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">偏」了。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span lang=\"EN-US\"><p><font face=\"Times New Roman\"> </font></p></span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">大多数的人并不了解你，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">你也不完全了解这些人，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">既然如此，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">我们就不该轻易地去论断他人，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">当然也不必在意别人的论断。</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">因为，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">每个人都可能扣错第一颗扣子</span><font face=\"Times New Roman\">
                </font><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">，</span></p><p class=\"MsoNormal\" align=\"left\" style=\"MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left;\"><span style=\"FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; mso-hansi-font-family: \'Times New Roman\';\">不是吗</span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\">?</font></span></p>

有道理啊，有时眼见不一定为实，保持平常心，不先入为主，一次容易，一辈子不容易做到。

<p><img src=\"images/post/smile/dvbbs/em03.gif\" /></p><p>我想到了第二颗扣子……</p><img src=\"images/post/smile/dvbbs/em05.gif\" />

<p>没错 一个师兄的老婆上次来帮师兄收拾宿舍的行李，看着就如农村大妈一般，简直不能想象是我那师兄的老婆</p><p>今天才知道，外表朴素甚至老土，甘愿连被褥都帮老公收拾的师兄夫人，供职于国内某著名设计公司，平面设计强人。</p><p>任何时候，都需要谦虚谨慎。先入为主要不得啊</p><p><br/>

                               
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